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Batterer
Intervention
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You Abusive to Your Partner? *
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you frequently check up on your partner (where she is, who she’s
with, etc.)?
- Are you jealous and/or possessive of her?
- Do you criticize or insult your partner?
- Have you threatened your partner or broken things to frighten her?
- Have you left or threatened to leave her in a dangerous or unknown
place?
- Have you driven too fast or recklessly specifically to frighten
her?
- Have you kicked, hit, thrown down, shoved, choked or thrown objects
at your partner?
- Do you think that your actions were prompted by your partner’s
behavior?
- Have you blamed your violent behavior on drinking or using drugs?
- Have you scared/intimidated your partner so that she is afraid to
say “no” to you?
- Have you threatened to harm her or yourself if she breaks up with
you?
- Do you believe you are permitted to hit your partner if she does
or says something that you don’t like?
- Have you ever forced your partner to engage in sexual activities
when she did not want to do so?
If you have answered “yes” to any of these questions,
it is time to check your behavior. Battering behavior can only
be stopped if the batterer decides to change and seek help. There are
programs available to help.
Adapted from material prepared by Domestic Violence Project/SAFE House,
Ann Arbor, MI
*This handout is gender specific because that is the reality of most
relationship violence. According to a 2003 Crime Data Brief from the
Bureau of Justice Statistics, more than 85% of victims of intimate partner
violence are women and the majority of those committing violent acts
are men.
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